Remember Setting Boundaries Is Perfectly OK
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends 💖😘💖
I’ve always been a blunt person and have always said what I mean and mean what I say… And I can totally admit that I can tend to be brutally honest when it comes to certain things…
Yet I’ve never ever had time for people that beat around the bush or when someone asks my opinion they turn around and get all butt hurt when I express how I feel about what they asked me about 🤔🤨🤔
Whiners are a huge pet peeve of mine…
I get that we all hear, see and process things differently and I get that we all need to vent, yet vent about it then do something about it..
Don’t sit there and whine or bitch about it constantly… Get it off your chest then find a solution…
No matter what it is… Period!!!…🤨😠🤨
My point in all this is:
There’s certain things we need to set boundaries for and it doesn’t matter what it’s about… It can be as simple as someone asking your opinion about a certain subject…
Setting boundaries are a safety precaution for yourself..
Just like saying NO…
You don’t have to explain yourself when you’re doing what you want to do.. Especially when the boundry you set is for protecting YOU!!! 😉💖😉..
Have a beYOUtiful day world 💖
That Tell You What You Can and Cannot Do
Hello World and Happy Day My Friends 💗
People drive me crazy…
Why on earth do some people feel they have the right to tell you what you can and cannot do????
It seriously pushes my buttons big-time!!! 😫😠😡..
Everyone I know knows about the van living life I’m about to embark on, they all know I’m a tree hugging, dirt loving nature freak and they all know I’m disabled too 🤔
Yet why on earth would anyone try to tell anyone that because of a disability or weight issue that they shouldn’t or can’t do something they love… like hiking??? 😠..
Yes I’m disabled… Yes I have rods that hold up my big old head because I have no vertebrae in my neck, yes I have limited mobility in my neck and spine because of having to have 12 spine surgeries… Yes I have MS and although I don’t have a weight issue, I’ve been sitting on my ass since my son passed away and I am way out of shape…
But what’s that got to do with what I want to do and enjoy doing?
It drives me insane when people ASSUME that just because someone may have a disability, may have a weight issue or are out of shape that they can’t do certain things…
There’s no size limit to hiking and there’s no signs that say if you’re disabled you cannot hike this trail…
WTF PEOPLE!!! 😠..
So I decided that after receiving my stickers from a couple accounts that I follow on IG @unlikelyhikers & @mtnchicks (that I will proudly put on my van 😉)…I was gonna do a shout out to all the people out here that think or have been told that they can’t do things they want to do because others think they can’t or because they are disabled or are not in tip top shape..
DO IT ANYWAY!!!
If it’s something you love doing, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t..
Sooooo don’t ever let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do… Go out and do whatever it is that you truly want to do!!!💗😉💗…
So Your Motivation Doesn’t Go Out The Door
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends
This morning when I woke up I looked at the bus and knew I had to get busy organizing things under my bed to make the things I use frequently more easily accessible … Yet my motivation for wanting to do it was gone gone gone 😥….
I actually felt like it’s what I do every day, constantly organizing the bus and although it’s not, I really didn’t want to tackle it cause it’s a pain in the ass getting under my bed 😮
Yet with my journey right around the corner I have got to get it done so I’m not constantly taking things out, putting them back, searching for stuff and feeling totally unorganized cause I can’t find something…😕
So I knew I had to switch my thinking 🤔 and mix up how I was going to tackle the job so it wasn’t something I dreaded 😵 because I ready do have to get it done.😥
My point in all this is…
There are certain things that we do every day that wind up feeling repetitive yet they are things that we must do…
So instead of looking at them negatively do them in a way that works for you!!!
We don’t wake up all motivated to do our daily tasks each day..
So switch up how you tackle them and then get them out of your way!!! 😋😋
Have a productive day world 💗
No Matter What You Say or Do
“Sometimes it’s not the people that change… It’s their mask that falls off!” ~Unknown Author
I’m not sure why it always amazes me when people act out of sorts… I’m always me and I’ve been the same all my life! Yet when people do a total 360° I tend to get shocked, surprised or totally thrown for a loop.. 😵🤔🙄😱
This morning as I was doing my morning reading, I came across the above quote and it hit me hard because I’m actually going through that with a couple people that live where I do.. I do believe that people come and go into our lives for a reason..
Whether it be for a lesson or for life yet I don’t understand how people can be one way one minute and flip like a coin the next… 🤔🙄🤔
My biggest pet peeve is a two-faced person.. Maybe it’s because I’m so up front.. Maybe it’s because I’m too trusting and see the best in everyone.. Maybe it’s because I have a huge heart and am a giver… Maybe it’s because I’m an adult and don’t sugar coat shit.. I’m NOT Willy Wonka… 😠😡😠…
I use to have no problem confronting someone and was never afraid of confrontation yet throughout the years I’ve learned that it’s not worth my peace of mind or energy to engage in high school he said she said nah nah nah nah nah games..Yet it still at times gets to me 😩
Moral of this story: People will be people no matter what we say or do… Just be yourself and walk away don’t let others negativity get to you!!!!
Have a beautiful day world 🌻🤗🌻
The last couple days have been a tad crazy with hurricane warnings, flash floods and tropical storm winds and rain yet I am a-ok after battening down the hatches..🙋.
Today I wanna talk a little about comparing things we do to how others do things.
I’ve had many people send me links to videos of others that are converting buses or vans for living in and although I love getting them, seeing what others do to theirs and getting ideas and inspiration, I noticed that I started to compare myself to what others are doing and in the long run that’s really not a good thing to do. 🤔🙄
My bus is my bus and I love the fact that I’m doing it the way I want to… And I’m sure after I get on the road I’ll want to add or remove things as I need to yet for now I’m doing it exactly how I want too for me, myself and my dogs lol…
There are so many people out there today that are converting a bus or a van to travel in and some to live in… Some have sold their homes and belongings etc and have the finances to make some amazing vans and bus conversions and yet I’m NOT doing this as a fad or because it’s trendy to do.. 🙄🤔🙄
I’m NOT doing this to become a blogging sensation or to get the most followers on IG, Facebook or YouTube… I’m doing it to honor my son and myself, I’m doing it to live in and be able to travel to all the places I want to see and sprinkle my sons ashes as I promised him I would… and most importantly I’m doing this to heal from losing my son and to learn and find what I want to do for the rest of my days as an empty nester and I’m doing this all on my disability income which trust me is NOT a lot yet it IS doable and the only way I can see the country as I want too… FREE to do, go and see as I choose to!! No apartment or house just freedom to come and go as I please… to show others that have or are going through what I am that you CAN live your dreams and you can live again after a devastating loss and you can be happy… YOUR WAY!!!
Not many people get it or understand why, yet it’s not their life it’s mine and as a very good friend of mine said…
“You’re going to be camping for a long time living your dream… You’re not going glamping for the weekend, make it basic and functional for YOU!”
And that’s exactly what I’m doing! I know I’m going to hit bumps and obstacles and that’s OK… I still get to live my life on my terms any way and anywhere I choose.
We all do things differently and that’s what makes us unique… As long as we are doing and or trying our best that’s all that matters…Because your very best is totally different than another’s very best… Cause your best is totally unique to YOU!!! 🙃😎..
Stay true my friends and be YOU!!!
This morning when I woke up I was going to post a different poem I wrote and right before I posted it I saw a post my beautiful friend Christi posted on instagram about children and how we are taught hate and racism and it hit me hard… 😢 cause it’s so true 😢😢…
Growing up in NYC I was surrounded by diversity and different cultures from all over the world and was raised to accept everyone for WHO they are.. not WHAT they did for a living, not WHERE they were from, not what RELIGION they practiced or BELIEVED in and not what COLOR their skin was!
I was raised to BE ME & BE KIND TO ALL..To EMBRACE and LEARN from other cultures, not to FEAR them or DISLIKE them for being different and I raised my children the same way!!! Yet I truly feel our world is going backwards not forwards and it truly saddens my heart! 😢💔😢
Does it really matter where someone is from???… NO…. Does it really matter what someone does for a living as long as they aren’t stealing or harming another human being???… NO…. Does it really matter what color a person is???… NO… because if you strip our skin we would all look alike!! And does it really matter what you believe in, whether it be God, Allah, The Universe or none???… NO NO NO!!!! 😡😡😡
Come on people snap out of it… Stop talking smack about others just because they aren’t like you or don’t believe in what you believe…. Stop telling lies because you are jealous or don’t understand or just don’t know… Stop putting people in categories… We all bleed the same color and If you don’t know ask… Learn… Research whatever but STOP all this hate and violence just because others don’t believe as you do.. that’s what makes our world special…… that’s what makes our world unique 🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
Moral of this story.. BE KIND.. BE HUMAN.. BE REAL & STOP THE NONSENSE…Hate breeds violence and if we continue at the rate we’re going our world will cease to be! Wake up world!!! BEFORE there is no world to wake up too! 💗🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
WE ARE ONE!! EMBRACE NOT HATE!!!
Nobody Does Things Just Like You
Today while I was scrolling through IG I saw a very good friends @dope.aspirations post that made me really think about the expectations we put on others without even realizing we are doing it. 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Even little things… Like asking your kids to fill the dishwasher and then getting upset with the way they did it! Did they fail you… NOOOO.. They just didn’t do it like YOU would have and that’s an expectation! 😮😮😮😮
Be careful of what you expect from others because no one can really fail you, they can only do things as they do. Nobody fails intentionally and nobody does things just like you!
You all know my story and I cannot do this alone. I’ve tried to change the amount I need on my gofundme campaign yet it won’t allow me too, I’d have to start a brand new campaign which is crazy yet I only need $628 more to pay the mechanic. Please help if you are able or share the link so I can continue the journey to spread my sons ashes and heal… I AM ready
Thank you all for all your love and support. I AM GRATEFUL 😘🙏😘
😴❤😴❤ Goodnight Universe ❤😴❤😴