That Tell You What You Can and Cannot Do
Hello World and Happy Day My Friends 💗
People drive me crazy…
Why on earth do some people feel they have the right to tell you what you can and cannot do????
It seriously pushes my buttons big-time!!! 😫😠😡..
Everyone I know knows about the van living life I’m about to embark on, they all know I’m a tree hugging, dirt loving nature freak and they all know I’m disabled too 🤔
Yet why on earth would anyone try to tell anyone that because of a disability or weight issue that they shouldn’t or can’t do something they love… like hiking??? 😠..
Yes I’m disabled… Yes I have rods that hold up my big old head because I have no vertebrae in my neck, yes I have limited mobility in my neck and spine because of having to have 12 spine surgeries… Yes I have MS and although I don’t have a weight issue, I’ve been sitting on my ass since my son passed away and I am way out of shape…
But what’s that got to do with what I want to do and enjoy doing?
It drives me insane when people ASSUME that just because someone may have a disability, may have a weight issue or are out of shape that they can’t do certain things…
There’s no size limit to hiking and there’s no signs that say if you’re disabled you cannot hike this trail…
WTF PEOPLE!!! 😠..
So I decided that after receiving my stickers from a couple accounts that I follow on IG @unlikelyhikers & @mtnchicks (that I will proudly put on my van 😉)…I was gonna do a shout out to all the people out here that think or have been told that they can’t do things they want to do because others think they can’t or because they are disabled or are not in tip top shape..
DO IT ANYWAY!!!
If it’s something you love doing, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t..
Sooooo don’t ever let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do… Go out and do whatever it is that you truly want to do!!!💗😉💗…
It’s Empowering To Be You
Hello World and Happy Day My Friends 🤗
Yesterday I was reading an article about how people tend to have a “Blank Check” personality and especially women.. and it really hit home with me then later in the day a little boy that I babysit told me he loves me cause I’m always the same Auntie Ricci 🤔🙄🤔..
We all do tend to have different personalities yet why???
We are different at work then we are at home… We’re different when we go shopping than we are when we go out on the town… We’re different with our friends in person than we are with online friends…
We tend to put different masks on many times throughout the day and although I know our actions must match the situation, we don’t have to change “Who” we are, yet we do.
I will be the first to say I have a sailors mouth haha yet I also know when to let it flow and when to curb it..
Yet I am still the same Ricci whether I’m using my sailors mouth or not 🙄..
My point is…
Just like a flower doesn’t compare itself to others in the field..
Always be who you truly are cause it’s empowering to be real!! It doesn’t matter what others think or what they say or do… The most amazing thing you can do for yourself is to always be true to you!!😁
Have a fantabulous day world 💗
Hello World and Happy Day My Friends 🤗
So many people tell me I’m courageous for wanting to embark on a van living life being a solo female and it made me think about what the word actually means 🤔🤔
COU·RA·GEOUS — kəˈrājəs/adjective
Not deterred by danger or pain; brave.
I think the key words in this definition are: “Not Deterred” which I believe is true when it comes to me being courageous…
It’s not that I don’t have my fears when it comes to embarking on a solo van life… It’s just that I refuse to allow fear to stop me from living my dream. 😁
Fear is a bitch and I’ve learned that it can and will stop you from accomplishing anything if YOU allow it too…
Yet once you push past it… You realize there was nothing to be fearful of in the first place 🙄
Learning to be courageous is not a hard thing to do… All it means is that you refuse to allow anything to fully stop you…
Being courageous is powerful and shows that you’re not afraid too try… So learn to be courageous and don’t let fear stop you from reaching the sky 🙋🙋🙋🙋
Have a beautiful and courageous day 💗
A friend of mine that is embarking on a new life journey was having a difficult time and we discussed how scary it is and at the same time how empowering it is once you actually do it… 🤗🤔🤗🤔..
She called me this morning to thank me for giving her the strength to do it and when I told her that I didn’t give her the strength or actually push her that she had it all along, she reminded me that sometimes when one doesn’t feel they can do something and someone helps them see that they can…
That too is empowering for both.. and she’s right…😮😊..
When we guide or help someone feel empowered, we empower ourselves too.. and even if we haven’t actually done it yet, seeing another do it that you’ve helped, gives us the strength to do it too!
Change can be intimating and very scary too… Yet once you actually do it you become a strong and confident you!!!
Have a fantabulous day world 💗
This weekend I was hanging out with some friends and their children and I asked the kids what they wanted to be when they grew up… 🤔🤔🤔.
One of them said she wants to be an oceanographer to help save our oceans (which of course made me and her mom smile big) and then the little boy said he wanted to be a trash collector with a big huge truck to clean up all the trash on the beaches (which made me smile too) but his mom immediately said: “No you can’t do that, you should be a doctor to help people instead!” Hmmmmm????🤔😮🤔
Yep that opened a huge debate session cause it really bothered me that she didn’t support what he wants to do…
I never understood why anyone would try to force someone to do something they don’t want to do yet it happens all the time…
And that’s why I wrote this poem…
We don’t need permission to do the things we want to do yet there are so many parents out there that will tell their child that they won’t pay for college etc if they don’t do what they want them to do…😩😩
Don’t ever allow anyone to tell you your dreams or goals aren’t good enough or that you shouldn’t do this or that..
If it’s something you think about 24/7 then do it!!!
It’s your life and they’re your dreams so love it and live it!! 💗💗💗
Have a fantabulous day world 🌻🤗🌻
Setting boundaries isn’t always easy especially when it comes to family and people you’ve known for a really long time…
It requires you to say NO NO NO without guilt filling your mind…🙄🤔🙄
I’ve always been a giver, it’s just who I am.. Yet learning to say no without feeling guilty was one of the hardest things for me to do… 😥😥😥.
NO truly is a complete sentence and yet for some reason we tend to want to explain our reasons for saying NO…
They say we don’t owe anyone an explanation when we say NO… Yet why does it feel so yucky or mean when we don’t give an explanation???
Setting boundaries and saying NO shows that you know your limits of what you will and will not do… and your boundaries will be different towards different people too..
So don’t get mad or judge when people say NO to you… Cause setting boundaries is healthy and important for your peace of mind too!!🤗🤗.
Have a beautiful day world 🤗❤🤗
No matter what the situation is…
No matter what you’ve left behind…
No matter how hard things may get…
No matter how long it takes…
Your dreams are right in front of you…
There’s a reason the rearview mirror is so small 💗🤗💗
Goodnight Universe 💗🤗💗