Remember Setting Boundaries Is Perfectly OK
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends 💖😘💖
I’ve always been a blunt person and have always said what I mean and mean what I say… And I can totally admit that I can tend to be brutally honest when it comes to certain things…
Yet I’ve never ever had time for people that beat around the bush or when someone asks my opinion they turn around and get all butt hurt when I express how I feel about what they asked me about 🤔🤨🤔
Whiners are a huge pet peeve of mine…
I get that we all hear, see and process things differently and I get that we all need to vent, yet vent about it then do something about it..
Don’t sit there and whine or bitch about it constantly… Get it off your chest then find a solution…
No matter what it is… Period!!!…🤨😠🤨
My point in all this is:
There’s certain things we need to set boundaries for and it doesn’t matter what it’s about… It can be as simple as someone asking your opinion about a certain subject…
Setting boundaries are a safety precaution for yourself..
Just like saying NO…
You don’t have to explain yourself when you’re doing what you want to do.. Especially when the boundry you set is for protecting YOU!!! 😉💖😉..
Have a beYOUtiful day world 💖
Yet Necessary For Your Own Well-being
Hello World and Happy Day My Friends 🤗🤗
This morning I was talking to my neighbor who like me babysits everyday but she babysits for her 2yr old grandson..(the little boy I babysit is 8) yesterday she actually had a day off from watching him and said she felt so guilty for telling her son that she needed a break😫
We got to talking about how she has the hardest time saying no to her son and that she’s starting to resent that she offered in the first place cause she feels like she’s putting her life on hold for him, when what she really wants to do is travel in her RV 🤔🤔
She’s retired and last year bought her little trailer so she could do exactly what I’m about to do and now feels stuck because of her son and grandson 😫
We talked for a while and when she asked for my advice all I could say was be honest with your son and tell him how you really feel..
I told her that as hard as that may be it’s so important to do because resentments suck and the last thing she wants to do is have a resentment towards her son and grandson..😫
My point in all of this is..
It’s difficult for all of us to say no to our kids yet it’s so important to do so. It teaches them that it’s ok to say no and that when it’s in the best interest for you and your well-being, it’s mandatory to do so..
As parents we will always be there for our kids yet we need to be there for ourselves too especially once our kids are grown with families of their own and we cannot enable them or allow them to think that just because we’re mom or dad we’ll do whatever they want or need.
Don’t put your life on hold for something you really don’t want to do… It’s really ok to say no especially if saying no is what’s best for you!!!😉🤗
No Is A Complete Sentence
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends 🤗🤗
It took me a really long time to learn that NO is a complete sentence.. To understand that I shouldn’t feel guilty or have to give an explanation when saying no… And sometimes it’s still hard for me to say no ✋🚫🙅…
I totally get when we say no to children that they will pout or throw a fit cause they are still learning yet when an adult gets all butt hurt or gets pissed off when I say no to something.. That totally throws me for a loop… 😒🙄🤔…
There is nothing wrong with saying NO if what you’re being asked to do isn’t right for you… You don’t need to explain and you certainly shouldn’t feel guilty… Yet we tend too feel we need to explain, we feel guilty for saying no… Or the people we’re saying no to try to make you feel bad for saying it 🤔🤔🙄🙄…..
The people that respect your decision will smile and say okay.. The ones that don’t may get really mad & may even walk away… Yet don’t feel bad for saying no cause it’s a complete sentence too … Saying yes when you mean no isn’t good for them or you! 😉😉😉…
Have a beautiful day world ❤️
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends
I wasn’t going to post today but I just experienced something really cool that we don’t get to see to often 😱 I was picking up a few things at my least favorite store yet the only one in the little town I’m in, and as I was walking up to the register I overheard a very nasty customer screaming at the cashier… 😠
It was very obvious that the poor cashier couldn’t do anything about an item that was out of stock, yet the customer did and said everything nasty that she could to try to get the cashier upset and make it out to be her fault..😱..
Yet the cashier kept calm and didn’t even make a face at the nasty person…😏
Just as I got to the end of the line, a lady and gentlemen walked up to the nasty customer and said…
“It’s not her fault they are out of stock and you have no right to take your anger out on her. If you have a problem take it up with management, but do not scream at this girl.. she is just doing her job and has no control of what is in or out of stock.. So take your anger elsewhere because none of us want to hear it and she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that by you or anyone!!!” 😠
It was so cool and everyone in line started clapping!!! Needless to say the nasty customer left in a hurry and in a huff… 😁
The cashier was amazing and no matter what was being said kept her cool and gave the rest of us exceptional service with a smile like nothing happened at all😏🤗😁
There’s lots of things that happen that make us want to scream but don’t take your anger out on others or treat another mean.. so when something yucky happens remember this quote too…
“Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you!!😏😁😏
Have a beautiful day world 💗
It Helps You Reach Your Dreams
Hello World & Happy Day My Friends 🤗🤗
I never could wrap my head around why people will tell you that you’re crazy to believe you can reach your dreams 🤔🤔..
Do they say it because they don’t have the same dreams or wish they did? Do they say it because they are jealous? 🤔🤔🤔.
This morning I was talking to a few people about the 205 places I want to see in my bus and all the of them said I was crazy to think I could hit that goal and that it was an unrealistic and unobtainable goal especially on my disability income 😠😠
I actually laughed hard… 😁😁
First because I know many people that live the van life on half of what I get each month and second because I truly believe that everything is obtainable when you believe and do what it takes to accomplish it 🙄😁🙄
So my friends…
Don’t ever allow others to deter you from following your dreams…
When someone says you’re crazy… Smile and say that’s true.. And when your old and have lived your dreams you can say that being crazy worked for you 😁🙃😝.
Have a beautifully crazy fun day world 🤗
The Craziest Day Of The Year
Ok so why on earth do people make today the craziest day of the year?? I participated in Black Friday sales one time and I swore I’d never do it again and I haven’t!!! 🤔😱
The first thing I saw online when I woke up this morning were articles about people getting trampled on, arrested and sent to the hospital because of a certain item on sale in Walmart and I was like REALLY?????
Is anything on earth really worth getting hurt or hurting another to get??? Hmmmmm???🤔🤔🤔.
The holidays are supposed to be a happy time, a time of giving, a time of sharing and a time of showing gratitude to and for those we love…
Yet the media and stores make it a day of competition and that too me is totally the opposite of what the holiday is supposed to be about!!! 😮🤔..
For all of you that participate in this crazy negative pumped up day.. More power to you…
Yet please try to remember what the holiday season is supposed to be about and be careful cause no gift is so important that you have to fight tooth and nail to get….
Today is just another day of the year so breath for goodness sake!!!
Have a calm and beautiful day world 💗🤗
Setting boundaries isn’t always easy especially when it comes to family and people you’ve known for a really long time…
It requires you to say NO NO NO without guilt filling your mind…🙄🤔🙄
I’ve always been a giver, it’s just who I am.. Yet learning to say no without feeling guilty was one of the hardest things for me to do… 😥😥😥.
NO truly is a complete sentence and yet for some reason we tend to want to explain our reasons for saying NO…
They say we don’t owe anyone an explanation when we say NO… Yet why does it feel so yucky or mean when we don’t give an explanation???
Setting boundaries and saying NO shows that you know your limits of what you will and will not do… and your boundaries will be different towards different people too..
So don’t get mad or judge when people say NO to you… Cause setting boundaries is healthy and important for your peace of mind too!!🤗🤗.
Have a beautiful day world 🤗❤🤗