“If you have to choose between being kind and being right… Choose being kind and you’ll always be right!” ~ Dalai Lama
Growing up my mom always use to say “kill them with kindness” or “you get more with sugar than you do with vinegar!” And of course I had to learn that the hard way as most of us do…
Yet the older I get the more I see just how true it actually is and not just towards another.. It’s true for my inner peace as well! 😁🤔🙄🤔.
No-one or nothing is worth getting all worked up about.. It disturbs your peace of mind and truly disrupts your whole day…
So for today instead of reacting negatively back to a yucky situation.. Step back, process it, breathe, smile and kill the situation with kindness.. You’ll be amazed at how you’ll feel..
Cause negativity has no recourse to a positive response! 😒☺😒☺😒☺😒…
Have a beYOUtiful day world 🤗🌻🤗
The last couple days have been a tad crazy with hurricane warnings, flash floods and tropical storm winds and rain yet I am a-ok after battening down the hatches..🙋.
Today I wanna talk a little about comparing things we do to how others do things.
I’ve had many people send me links to videos of others that are converting buses or vans for living in and although I love getting them, seeing what others do to theirs and getting ideas and inspiration, I noticed that I started to compare myself to what others are doing and in the long run that’s really not a good thing to do. 🤔🙄
My bus is my bus and I love the fact that I’m doing it the way I want to… And I’m sure after I get on the road I’ll want to add or remove things as I need to yet for now I’m doing it exactly how I want too for me, myself and my dogs lol…
There are so many people out there today that are converting a bus or a van to travel in and some to live in… Some have sold their homes and belongings etc and have the finances to make some amazing vans and bus conversions and yet I’m NOT doing this as a fad or because it’s trendy to do.. 🙄🤔🙄
I’m NOT doing this to become a blogging sensation or to get the most followers on IG, Facebook or YouTube… I’m doing it to honor my son and myself, I’m doing it to live in and be able to travel to all the places I want to see and sprinkle my sons ashes as I promised him I would… and most importantly I’m doing this to heal from losing my son and to learn and find what I want to do for the rest of my days as an empty nester and I’m doing this all on my disability income which trust me is NOT a lot yet it IS doable and the only way I can see the country as I want too… FREE to do, go and see as I choose to!! No apartment or house just freedom to come and go as I please… to show others that have or are going through what I am that you CAN live your dreams and you can live again after a devastating loss and you can be happy… YOUR WAY!!!
Not many people get it or understand why, yet it’s not their life it’s mine and as a very good friend of mine said…
“You’re going to be camping for a long time living your dream… You’re not going glamping for the weekend, make it basic and functional for YOU!”
And that’s exactly what I’m doing! I know I’m going to hit bumps and obstacles and that’s OK… I still get to live my life on my terms any way and anywhere I choose.
We all do things differently and that’s what makes us unique… As long as we are doing and or trying our best that’s all that matters…Because your very best is totally different than another’s very best… Cause your best is totally unique to YOU!!! 🙃😎..
Stay true my friends and be YOU!!!
This morning when I woke up I was going to post a different poem I wrote and right before I posted it I saw a post my beautiful friend Christi posted on instagram about children and how we are taught hate and racism and it hit me hard… 😢 cause it’s so true 😢😢…
Growing up in NYC I was surrounded by diversity and different cultures from all over the world and was raised to accept everyone for WHO they are.. not WHAT they did for a living, not WHERE they were from, not what RELIGION they practiced or BELIEVED in and not what COLOR their skin was!
I was raised to BE ME & BE KIND TO ALL..To EMBRACE and LEARN from other cultures, not to FEAR them or DISLIKE them for being different and I raised my children the same way!!! Yet I truly feel our world is going backwards not forwards and it truly saddens my heart! 😢💔😢
Does it really matter where someone is from???… NO…. Does it really matter what someone does for a living as long as they aren’t stealing or harming another human being???… NO…. Does it really matter what color a person is???… NO… because if you strip our skin we would all look alike!! And does it really matter what you believe in, whether it be God, Allah, The Universe or none???… NO NO NO!!!! 😡😡😡
Come on people snap out of it… Stop talking smack about others just because they aren’t like you or don’t believe in what you believe…. Stop telling lies because you are jealous or don’t understand or just don’t know… Stop putting people in categories… We all bleed the same color and If you don’t know ask… Learn… Research whatever but STOP all this hate and violence just because others don’t believe as you do.. that’s what makes our world special…… that’s what makes our world unique 🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
Moral of this story.. BE KIND.. BE HUMAN.. BE REAL & STOP THE NONSENSE…Hate breeds violence and if we continue at the rate we’re going our world will cease to be! Wake up world!!! BEFORE there is no world to wake up too! 💗🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
WE ARE ONE!! EMBRACE NOT HATE!!!
This morning while I was drinking my morning cup of coffee, I starting thinking about the difference between KNOWING that we can do something and THINKING that we can 🤔🤔🤔 and there actually is a difference between the two…🙄🤔🙄…
Our minds can play tricks on us and when you think we can do something and we go to try to do it. Our minds can put doubt in there and it can halt us in our tracks… When we KNOW we can do something we have the confidence to actually go out and do it without any doubts or fears…. 🤔🙄.
Yes HOW and WHAT we think about ourselves and the things we do is extremely important because we are what we think we are… Yet it all boils down to CONFIDENCE… Confidence in WHO we are and CONFIDENCE in WHAT we do… 😁😁.
SOOOOOOOO today be confident in what you’re doing and in who you are… Because once you have the confidence to do and to BE.. Nothing can get in your way…💪🙋💪.
Working on and having running water in the bus again and I feel great about it and very productive… I’m down to only needing help with $384 to finish getting the inverter, the batteries and the solar panel kit… My gofundme link is still active and I’m my bio for anyone that can help or please share the link so I can make the goal of being on the road on my son’s birthday October 4th. 🤗❤🤗 Thank you to everyone for all your love and support for it’s helped me get where I am today and I’m so very grateful ❤🙏❤… Have a beYOUtiful day world… back to work I go! 🤗🌻🤗…
Everyone and Everything Is Unique
Yesterday when I was walking in the rain, the smell, the sounds, the feeling of the rain on my skin made me feel refreshed and centered…. 🌻🌧🌻…
I rarely take an umbrella cause I love the way the rain feels, It’s cleansing and refreshing and also helps things heal🌧🌻.
The different types of flowers, the different types of trees… The sounds of the rain falling on the river, the sounds of the birds and the bees… All made me see how different and unique this beautiful world of ours is…. 🌻🌎
So don’t strive for perfection, cause perfection can’t be found… Just take a walk in nature and you’ll see that beauty is all around 🤗🌻🤗🌻🤗🌻🤗🌻🤗🌻🤗🌻
Have a beYOUtiful day world 🌻🌍
Another day to remember to practice what I preach 😱😱😱 I’ve been working so hard on the bus and not taking breaks that this morning I woke up tired and stressed out a little 🤔🙄🤔🙄 and if course this poem came to mind… 🙄🤔🙄.
We all want to give 110% yet we can’t do that all day long… Cause when we try to do so, we beat ourselves up when something goes wrong. 😡🙄😡…
So learn to take a break from things… You don’t have to quit.. just know it’s okay to take a break and rest a little bit…😁🤗😁.
So today is 82 degrees with 91% humidity AHHHHHHHHH 😫😫😫😫😨😨😨😨… So I decided that since it will be like a steam room inside the bus, I’m gonna take a break today and wash the outside cause it needs it badly and I’ll get to play with the water hose hahaha… I definitely need to get the electricity situated inside and now only need $384 to have everything I need, the inverter, batteries and solar kit to run the fridge and the fans, lights at night and a few other things.. my gofundme link is still active and below for anyone that can help…
I’m so very close and am so grateful for all the love and support from everyone…
Much love to you all and have a beautiful day world 🌻🌍🌻
It’s About Connections From Your Heart!
As you all know my second mom passed away last week and although we lost touch for 20 yrs the first 15 yrs and the last 10 yrs we’ve been in touch just about every day. Yet in the last 10 yrs, Katy my bff, my sister, my heart and my rock lost her brother, then I lost my son and now her mom.
There was no way I wasn’t going to get myself to Atlantic City even if I seriously had to walk to be here for them, as they have always been here for me over my life and as always the universe provided a way for me to fly there on Wednesday…
I was in contact with Katy’s brother/my brother and we decided to keep it a surprise and not let Katy know… Katy lives in Paris and for 10 yrs we have been trying to get together, yet one thing or another kept preventing it.. not this time.. and to explain the emotion when we saw each other would be impossible… Yet although this wasn’t the reunion we had planned due to her mom passing… It has been a reunion like no other and I wanted to share it with you!!!
Seeing friends and family that I grew up with that I haven’t seen in 30 years has been incredible… Brian and Keith my brothers, Andre the love of my life and Julio whom I love so very much and not a day has gone by in the past 30 yrs where I haven’t thought about them. Meeting my gorgeous neices Asia and Miranda and making new friends that are actually more family now Bonnie, Mary, Carl, Lori and reminiscing about the old days, making plans for new times and adventures and reconnecting with those I have and will always love is a feeling that I cannot explain and a feeling that will be in my heart forever and beyond.
So my friends always always appreciate the moments you have and have had… so you’ll never regret the moments you’ve missed. Much love to you all today, forever and beyond!!
Thank you all for understanding my absence as the funeral was yesterday and although I’m not going home until Wednesday, I just wanted you all to know that I’m ok and I miss and love you all so very much… Thank you for all your messages, your love, your support and your genuine concern during my absence. YOU ALL truly mean the world to me and I mean that with all of my being ❤🤗❤🤗
Have a beautiful rest weekend my friends 🤗❤