Listen To Your Gut

It Won’t Ever Lie To You

Hello World & Happy Day My Friends πŸ€—πŸ’–πŸ€—..
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For a while before I bought the new batteries for the bus, every time I tried to start the bus I had to jump it to get it started and I kept getting a feeling that it wasn’t just my batteries, that I probably needed to get a new starter too…

But of course I didn’t listen to my gut, I kept listening to everyone else that said that I just needed two new batteries πŸ€”

So this past Saturday I bought two new batteries, a starting battery and an auxillary battery and at first after I installed them it started right up, then after a few minutes when I went to start it…

Nothing…..It wouldn’t turn over at all 🀬

So I decided to test the starter and go figure…

I need a new starter 🀬🀬🀬

It’s an easy fix that I can do myself yet instead of going with my gut and getting one when I bought the batteries, I went against my gut and didn’t get it…

Go figure huh lol lol 😯😫

So tomorrow I’ll be going to the parts store AGAIN to get a new starter so I can install it tomorrow 😫🀬😫

My point in all this is that…

We tend to go against our gut when it tells us what to do… So listen to what your gut says cause it won’t ever lie to you!!! πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰

Have a beYOUtiful day world πŸ’–

Ricci πŸ’•

Saying No Is Hard

Yet Necessary For Your Own Well-being

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends πŸ€—πŸ€—

This morning I was talking to my neighbor who like me babysits everyday but she babysits for her 2yr old grandson..(the little boy I babysit is 8) yesterday she actually had a day off from watching him and said she felt so guilty for telling her son that she needed a break😫

We got to talking about how she has the hardest time saying no to her son and that she’s starting to resent that she offered in the first place cause she feels like she’s putting her life on hold for him, when what she really wants to do is travel in her RV πŸ€”πŸ€”

She’s retired and last year bought her little trailer so she could do exactly what I’m about to do and now feels stuck because of her son and grandson 😫

We talked for a while and when she asked for my advice all I could say was be honest with your son and tell him how you really feel..

I told her that as hard as that may be it’s so important to do because resentments suck and the last thing she wants to do is have a resentment towards her son and grandson..😫

My point in all of this is..

It’s difficult for all of us to say no to our kids yet it’s so important to do so. It teaches them that it’s ok to say no and that when it’s in the best interest for you and your well-being, it’s mandatory to do so..

As parents we will always be there for our kids yet we need to be there for ourselves too especially once our kids are grown with families of their own and we cannot enable them or allow them to think that just because we’re mom or dad we’ll do whatever they want or need.

Don’t put your life on hold for something you really don’t want to do… It’s really ok to say no especially if saying no is what’s best for you!!!πŸ˜‰πŸ€—

Ricci πŸ’•

Don’t Feel Guilty When You Say No

No Is A Complete Sentence

Hello World & Happy Day My Friends πŸ€—πŸ€—

It took me a really long time to learn that NO is a complete sentence.. To understand that I shouldn’t feel guilty or have to give an explanation when saying no… And sometimes it’s still hard for me to say no βœ‹πŸš«πŸ™……

I totally get when we say no to children that they will pout or throw a fit cause they are still learning yet when an adult gets all butt hurt or gets pissed off when I say no to something.. That totally throws me for a loop… πŸ˜’πŸ™„πŸ€”…

There is nothing wrong with saying NO if what you’re being asked to do isn’t right for you… You don’t need to explain and you certainly shouldn’t feel guilty… Yet we tend too feel we need to explain, we feel guilty for saying no… Or the people we’re saying no to try to make you feel bad for saying it πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ™„πŸ™„…..

The people that respect your decision will smile and say okay.. The ones that don’t may get really mad & may even walk away… Yet don’t feel bad for saying no cause it’s a complete sentence too … Saying yes when you mean no isn’t good for them or you! πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰…

Have a beautiful day world ❀️

Ricci πŸ’•

Don’t Listen To Others

That Tell You What You Can and Cannot Do

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends πŸ’—

AHHHHHHHH!!!!!

People drive me crazy…

Why on earth do some people feel they have the right to tell you what you can and cannot do????

It seriously pushes my buttons big-time!!! 😫😠😑..

Everyone I know knows about the van living life I’m about to embark on, they all know I’m a tree hugging, dirt loving nature freak and they all know I’m disabled too πŸ€”

Yet why on earth would anyone try to tell anyone that because of a disability or weight issue that they shouldn’t or can’t do something they love… like hiking??? 😠..

Yes I’m disabled… Yes I have rods that hold up my big old head because I have no vertebrae in my neck, yes I have limited mobility in my neck and spine because of having to have 12 spine surgeries… Yes I have MS and although I don’t have a weight issue, I’ve been sitting on my ass since my son passed away and I am way out of shape…

But what’s that got to do with what I want to do and enjoy doing?

NOTHING!!!!!

It drives me insane when people ASSUME that just because someone may have a disability, may have a weight issue or are out of shape that they can’t do certain things…

There’s no size limit to hiking and there’s no signs that say if you’re disabled you cannot hike this trail…

WTF PEOPLE!!! 😠..

So I decided that after receiving my stickers from a couple accounts that I follow on IG @unlikelyhikers & @mtnchicks (that I will proudly put on my van πŸ˜‰)…I was gonna do a shout out to all the people out here that think or have been told that they can’t do things they want to do because others think they can’t or because they are disabled or are not in tip top shape..

DO IT ANYWAY!!!

If it’s something you love doing, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t..

Sooooo don’t ever let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do… Go out and do whatever it is that you truly want to do!!!πŸ’—πŸ˜‰πŸ’—…

Ricci πŸ’•

Don’t Ever Take Your Anger

Out On Someone Else

Hello World & Happy Day My Friends

I wasn’t going to post today but I just experienced something really cool that we don’t get to see to often 😱 I was picking up a few things at my least favorite store yet the only one in the little town I’m in, and as I was walking up to the register I overheard a very nasty customer screaming at the cashier… 😠

It was very obvious that the poor cashier couldn’t do anything about an item that was out of stock, yet the customer did and said everything nasty that she could to try to get the cashier upset and make it out to be her fault..😱..

Yet the cashier kept calm and didn’t even make a face at the nasty person…😏

Just as I got to the end of the line, a lady and gentlemen walked up to the nasty customer and said…

“It’s not her fault they are out of stock and you have no right to take your anger out on her. If you have a problem take it up with management, but do not scream at this girl.. she is just doing her job and has no control of what is in or out of stock.. So take your anger elsewhere because none of us want to hear it and she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that by you or anyone!!!” 😠

It was so cool and everyone in line started clapping!!! Needless to say the nasty customer left in a hurry and in a huff… 😁

The cashier was amazing and no matter what was being said kept her cool and gave the rest of us exceptional service with a smile like nothing happened at allπŸ˜πŸ€—πŸ˜

There’s lots of things that happen that make us want to scream but don’t take your anger out on others or treat another mean.. so when something yucky happens remember this quote too…

“Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you!!😏😁😏

Have a beautiful day world πŸ’—

Ricci πŸ’•

Anger Is One Letter Away From Danger

So AlwaysThink Before You Speak

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends πŸ€—.

It always amazes me when I see someone taking their anger out on others even if it’s not the other person’s fault.. or you walk into the crossfire of someone’s anger or bad day and it becomes your fault…πŸ˜±πŸ€”

I’ve always been one that if I’m angry, having a bad day or just wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I tend to isolate.. if I’m depressed or really sad, I tend to isolate…

It’s not because of any reason other than I do not believe in projecting my mood onto anyone else…

Whether mad, sad or depressed.. if I want or need to talk about it I will… if not I’ll stay away until I work it out myself, yet I don’t ever project my yucky mood on anyone else.. especially if it’s not their fault I’m in that type of mood to begin with πŸ™„πŸ€”

Taking your anger or frustration out on anyone isn’t ok…

When I am in the crossfire of someone else’s bad mood, it always reminds me that ANGER is one letter away from DANGER and the only thing that projecting your anger onto someone else does is push the other person away πŸ™„

Anger leads us to saying things that we don’t really feel or don’t really mean to say, and it brings up trust issues too, especially if something is said that you really don’t mean but say in the heat of the moment!

And although actions do speak louder than words, our actions when we are angry usually match the words that we say…

NOT GOOD…😱

So whenever you are angry, remember who or what you’re angry at, think before you say a word… cause some words you can’t take back!!!

Ricci πŸ’•

Live Life Optimistically

Allow Life To Simply BE!


Hello World & Happy Day My Friends πŸ€—

Have you ever had one of those friends that always look at what could happen, or lives on what ifs constantly.. Expecting that this or that could happen.. Planning for the oh shits??πŸ€”πŸ™„.. (key word expecting!!) 

Hmmmmmm??? πŸ€”

I’ve always been optimistic and have always looked at all the good things that I’m going to experience rather than looking for what “could” happen or the “what ifs”… 

It’s not that I think life is a bowl of cherries πŸ’, I just don’t look at the woulda, could, shoulda senarios and if and when something does happen I deal with it as it comes…πŸ™„πŸ€”πŸ™„ 

The journey and life change that I’m getting ready to embark on is huge and I’m fully aware that shit can happen yet I’m not planning for it…πŸ€”

Living a van life will definitely have it’s ups and downs and Yes I “could” get a flat, Yes the bus “could” break down and Yes I “could” come across a full campground and or be asked to move from somewhere I chose to camp at… 

Yet I definitely don’t plan for those things to happen and I definitely don’t allow those “could happen” and “what ifs” to take up space in my head.. 

If I did I’d never leave my driveway!!! πŸ™„πŸ€”

I choose to live an optimistic life and make plans for everything good.. And when a yucky situation occurs I’ll deal with it as I should… 

Living a pessimistic life is not a life for me… I choose to look for the good in life and allow life to simply BE!!! πŸ€—πŸ’—πŸ€—

Have a beautiful day world πŸ’—

Ricci πŸ’•