Setting boundaries isn’t always easy especially when it comes to family and people you’ve known for a really long time…
It requires you to say NO NO NO without guilt filling your mind…🙄🤔🙄
I’ve always been a giver, it’s just who I am.. Yet learning to say no without feeling guilty was one of the hardest things for me to do… 😥😥😥.
NO truly is a complete sentence and yet for some reason we tend to want to explain our reasons for saying NO…
They say we don’t owe anyone an explanation when we say NO… Yet why does it feel so yucky or mean when we don’t give an explanation???
Setting boundaries and saying NO shows that you know your limits of what you will and will not do… and your boundaries will be different towards different people too..
So don’t get mad or judge when people say NO to you… Cause setting boundaries is healthy and important for your peace of mind too!!🤗🤗.
Have a beautiful day world 🤗❤🤗
What’s Meant To Be Will Be
I’ve always been one that believes that if it’s meant to be…it will happen and if it isn’t it won’t…
Yet still I have day’s where I get upset with myself or feel guilty when I set a date for a goal and don’t reach the date set or it gets pushed back for whatever reason 🤔🙄🤔.
Those are the times when I must remember that things don’t always work out in your timeframe and if it’s meant to be it will happen…
Instead of being hard on myself I need to be patient and keep moving towards whatever goal I have set for myself 🤔🙄🤗
We tend to get impatient and then feel guilty when we don’t hit our goals on time.. So don’t be too hard on yourself and push the guilt out of your mind..
Cause guilt gets us nowhere and halts where we’re heading too.. Patience is a virtue…you’ll hit that goal when you’re meant too 🤗💗
Have a beautiful day world 🤗💗
Have you ever been so shocked by someone else’s behavior that it truly made you feel like you weren’t sure if it was you or if it was them????? 😵🙄🤔.
Well that’s exactly what I’ve been going through for the past week.. So much so that I had to take a break from social media to get my head back on straight and take a good look at the situation and process it fully… 🤔🙄🤔🙄🤔…
I’ve always been a people person as well as being very spontaneous yet had always worried about what others thought about what I was doing and about myself in general 🙄 😩🤔😩..
It took me a loooonnnnggg time to not worry about what others thought about me, especially when it came to my doing what I needed to do for me and my peace of mind yet as we all look for a little validation, it totally threw me for a huge loop when someone I know (or should I say I thought I knew) stopped talking to me because I haven’t begun my journey in the bus yet! 😒🙄🤔😒…
Yes I went there…
Not being sure if it was them or me because I don’t like disappointing people in general 😖
I have never been one that’s afraid of change and I don’t have any problem with being spontaneous .. Yet this is HUGE and being that I am embarking on this journey alone (something else I’ve never ever done) “I” need to know that all my ducks are in a row with the bus and with myself especially emotionally 😏
The journey in the bus is a huge huge huge life change for me and for the first time in my life I actually want to do it right in every manner..
Although it is taking me longer than even I anticipated.. I’m taking my time.. So that when I drive away I’ll know that everything with the bus is mechanically sound and that I am truly emotionally ready to begin my journey to heal from the loss of my son and begin MY new life 🙏💗
What others may feel isn’t really relevant because this is my journey and however long it takes me to begin is OK..
It’s my journey to take when and only when….
I AM READY!!! 💗🙏💗
It’s OK To Show Them Too!
Last night I was talking with a very good friend that was upset because he was always told growing up that a man isn’t supposed to cry! A man isn’t supposed to show his feelings and that it makes him weak if he does!
THAT IS ONE OF MY BIGGEST HUGEST MOST GIGANTIC PET PEEVES!!!
WHY AREN’T MEN SUPPOSED TO SHOW THEIR TRUE FEELINGS??
WHY ARE THEY TAUGHT NOT TO SHOW THEM??
THEY ARE ALLOWED & THEY SHOULD!!!!!!
I raised my boys to know that it’s OK to cry, it’s OK to show how you feel no matter what and every one of their girlfriends throughout the years loved that part of them and I do too!
Society sucks in that manner because there is nothing wrong with crying! There is nothing wrong with showing your true feelings..
In fact it’s healthy to do so!!!
Women are told they are too sensitive when we show our emotions and men are taught not to show them!!
How ass backwards is that?????
To all the men out there that were told that showing your feeling isn’t OK… BULL!!!
To all the women out there that are told you’re too sensitive… BULL!!!
Showing how you feel is showing that you are real… So allow yourself to honour your feelings and allow yourself to be real!!!
No Matter What You Say or Do
“Sometimes it’s not the people that change… It’s their mask that falls off!” ~Unknown Author
I’m not sure why it always amazes me when people act out of sorts… I’m always me and I’ve been the same all my life! Yet when people do a total 360° I tend to get shocked, surprised or totally thrown for a loop.. 😵🤔🙄😱
This morning as I was doing my morning reading, I came across the above quote and it hit me hard because I’m actually going through that with a couple people that live where I do.. I do believe that people come and go into our lives for a reason..
Whether it be for a lesson or for life yet I don’t understand how people can be one way one minute and flip like a coin the next… 🤔🙄🤔
My biggest pet peeve is a two-faced person.. Maybe it’s because I’m so up front.. Maybe it’s because I’m too trusting and see the best in everyone.. Maybe it’s because I have a huge heart and am a giver… Maybe it’s because I’m an adult and don’t sugar coat shit.. I’m NOT Willy Wonka… 😠😡😠…
I use to have no problem confronting someone and was never afraid of confrontation yet throughout the years I’ve learned that it’s not worth my peace of mind or energy to engage in high school he said she said nah nah nah nah nah games..Yet it still at times gets to me 😩
Moral of this story: People will be people no matter what we say or do… Just be yourself and walk away don’t let others negativity get to you!!!!
Have a beautiful day world 🌻🤗🌻
This morning when I woke up I was going to post a different poem I wrote and right before I posted it I saw a post my beautiful friend Christi posted on instagram about children and how we are taught hate and racism and it hit me hard… 😢 cause it’s so true 😢😢…
Growing up in NYC I was surrounded by diversity and different cultures from all over the world and was raised to accept everyone for WHO they are.. not WHAT they did for a living, not WHERE they were from, not what RELIGION they practiced or BELIEVED in and not what COLOR their skin was!
I was raised to BE ME & BE KIND TO ALL..To EMBRACE and LEARN from other cultures, not to FEAR them or DISLIKE them for being different and I raised my children the same way!!! Yet I truly feel our world is going backwards not forwards and it truly saddens my heart! 😢💔😢
Does it really matter where someone is from???… NO…. Does it really matter what someone does for a living as long as they aren’t stealing or harming another human being???… NO…. Does it really matter what color a person is???… NO… because if you strip our skin we would all look alike!! And does it really matter what you believe in, whether it be God, Allah, The Universe or none???… NO NO NO!!!! 😡😡😡
Come on people snap out of it… Stop talking smack about others just because they aren’t like you or don’t believe in what you believe…. Stop telling lies because you are jealous or don’t understand or just don’t know… Stop putting people in categories… We all bleed the same color and If you don’t know ask… Learn… Research whatever but STOP all this hate and violence just because others don’t believe as you do.. that’s what makes our world special…… that’s what makes our world unique 🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
Moral of this story.. BE KIND.. BE HUMAN.. BE REAL & STOP THE NONSENSE…Hate breeds violence and if we continue at the rate we’re going our world will cease to be! Wake up world!!! BEFORE there is no world to wake up too! 💗🌏💗🌍💗🌎💗
WE ARE ONE!! EMBRACE NOT HATE!!!
Cause Panicking Can Get You And Others Hurt
The last couple of days have been crazy with everyone watching hurricane Irma and although I too live in Florida I’m no where near it’s projected path.. Like I’m seriously 400+miles away from it’s path..
Yet today I went into town to the grocery store and the frenzied panic in the store made me leave and not get what I went there for. The look of fear and panic on everyone’s face made me realize how crazy people get and how they panic rather than calming down and focusing on what needs to get done 🙄🤔🙄..
When people panic, people get hurt and that’s scarier than the storm…We can’t control mother nature, yet we can control ourselves.. please stay calm and focus on what you need to do so you don’t hurt someone else….🙄🤔🙄🤔
I know this storm is scary yet we all now what we need to do… So take a deep breath and please be calm so you don’t hurt yourself and others too!!!🙏❤🙏
As for me I’m working in the bus and sticking to my goal… The total I need to get everything in order for me to have electricity to run the fridge and other things while I’m stopped at night without using the engine battery is down to $554 and I am so grateful.😀❤🤗
I am still needing to purchase a 2000 watt inverter and two 12volt marine batteries as well as a 200 watt solar panel kit which would keep the inverter batteries charged at all times 🤗 My gofundme link is still active and is below for anyone that can help or if anyone knows where I can get those things cheaper please let me know.
My goal date to embark on my journey is my son’s birthday October 4th and I’m so close, it’s right around the corner and I’m so excited to begin ❤🤗❤
Have a beautiful day world 🌻🌍🌻