Saying No Is Hard

Yet Necessary For Your Own Well-being

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

This morning I was talking to my neighbor who like me babysits everyday but she babysits for her 2yr old grandson..(the little boy I babysit is 8) yesterday she actually had a day off from watching him and said she felt so guilty for telling her son that she needed a break๐Ÿ˜ซ

We got to talking about how she has the hardest time saying no to her son and that she’s starting to resent that she offered in the first place cause she feels like she’s putting her life on hold for him, when what she really wants to do is travel in her RV ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”

She’s retired and last year bought her little trailer so she could do exactly what I’m about to do and now feels stuck because of her son and grandson ๐Ÿ˜ซ

We talked for a while and when she asked for my advice all I could say was be honest with your son and tell him how you really feel..

I told her that as hard as that may be it’s so important to do because resentments suck and the last thing she wants to do is have a resentment towards her son and grandson..๐Ÿ˜ซ

My point in all of this is..

It’s difficult for all of us to say no to our kids yet it’s so important to do so. It teaches them that it’s ok to say no and that when it’s in the best interest for you and your well-being, it’s mandatory to do so..

As parents we will always be there for our kids yet we need to be there for ourselves too especially once our kids are grown with families of their own and we cannot enable them or allow them to think that just because we’re mom or dad we’ll do whatever they want or need.

Don’t put your life on hold for something you really don’t want to do… It’s really ok to say no especially if saying no is what’s best for you!!!๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿค—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

Don’t Feel Guilty When You Say No

No Is A Complete Sentence

Hello World & Happy Day My Friends ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

It took me a really long time to learn that NO is a complete sentence.. To understand that I shouldn’t feel guilty or have to give an explanation when saying no… And sometimes it’s still hard for me to say no โœ‹๐Ÿšซ๐Ÿ™……

I totally get when we say no to children that they will pout or throw a fit cause they are still learning yet when an adult gets all butt hurt or gets pissed off when I say no to something.. That totally throws me for a loop… ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”…

There is nothing wrong with saying NO if what you’re being asked to do isn’t right for you… You don’t need to explain and you certainly shouldn’t feel guilty… Yet we tend too feel we need to explain, we feel guilty for saying no… Or the people we’re saying no to try to make you feel bad for saying it ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„…..

The people that respect your decision will smile and say okay.. The ones that don’t may get really mad & may even walk away… Yet don’t feel bad for saying no cause it’s a complete sentence too … Saying yes when you mean no isn’t good for them or you! ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰…

Have a beautiful day world โค๏ธ

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

Don’t Look For Perfection

In Anything That You Seek

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends๐Ÿค—

This morning while walking my dog I saw the most beautiful butterfly sitting on a flower….

It sat there for what seemed like forever (of course I didn’t have my phone with me to take a pic ๐Ÿ˜ซ) and while I was staring at it I noticed that it’s wings weren’t truly identical ๐Ÿ˜ฎ.. the markings were slightly different ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ…

All my life I thought butterflies were perfect… I thought that their wings were identical in markings and had never really had the chance to stare at one long enough to notice that they actually aren’t ๐Ÿ˜ฎ… That there are flaws, that as beautiful as they are…

They aren’t perfect!!! ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿค”

Why is it that strive for perfection??

In all reality we know that nothing in life is perfect…

Perfection is a fallicy cause everything has flaws yet we strive for something that can’t really be obtained cause there’s no such thing ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿค”

So today I made a pact with myself to stop looking for or expecting things to turn out perfect cause as long as I’m doing my very best…

My best is perfect for me… ๐Ÿค—

I truly believe that once we stop looking for perfection and we learn to except and embrace not only what we do but WHO we are and we accept all of our flaws .. Our lives become perfectly perfect for us…๐Ÿค—

It doesn’t matter what others think about you…

What matters is what YOU think about yourself!!! ๐Ÿค”

So don’t look for perfection in anything that you seek

Love ALL you are & ALL your flaws cause you’re beautiful & unique๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿค—

Have a beautiful uniquely you day ๐Ÿ’—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

Don’t Ever Take Your Anger

Out On Someone Else

Hello World & Happy Day My Friends

I wasn’t going to post today but I just experienced something really cool that we don’t get to see to often ๐Ÿ˜ฑ I was picking up a few things at my least favorite store yet the only one in the little town I’m in, and as I was walking up to the register I overheard a very nasty customer screaming at the cashier… ๐Ÿ˜ 

It was very obvious that the poor cashier couldn’t do anything about an item that was out of stock, yet the customer did and said everything nasty that she could to try to get the cashier upset and make it out to be her fault..๐Ÿ˜ฑ..

Yet the cashier kept calm and didn’t even make a face at the nasty person…๐Ÿ˜

Just as I got to the end of the line, a lady and gentlemen walked up to the nasty customer and said…

“It’s not her fault they are out of stock and you have no right to take your anger out on her. If you have a problem take it up with management, but do not scream at this girl.. she is just doing her job and has no control of what is in or out of stock.. So take your anger elsewhere because none of us want to hear it and she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that by you or anyone!!!” ๐Ÿ˜ 

It was so cool and everyone in line started clapping!!! Needless to say the nasty customer left in a hurry and in a huff… ๐Ÿ˜

The cashier was amazing and no matter what was being said kept her cool and gave the rest of us exceptional service with a smile like nothing happened at all๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜

There’s lots of things that happen that make us want to scream but don’t take your anger out on others or treat another mean.. so when something yucky happens remember this quote too…

“Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you!!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Have a beautiful day world ๐Ÿ’—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

Anger Is One Letter Away From Danger

So AlwaysThink Before You Speak

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends ๐Ÿค—.

It always amazes me when I see someone taking their anger out on others even if it’s not the other person’s fault.. or you walk into the crossfire of someone’s anger or bad day and it becomes your fault…๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿค”

I’ve always been one that if I’m angry, having a bad day or just wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I tend to isolate.. if I’m depressed or really sad, I tend to isolate…

It’s not because of any reason other than I do not believe in projecting my mood onto anyone else…

Whether mad, sad or depressed.. if I want or need to talk about it I will… if not I’ll stay away until I work it out myself, yet I don’t ever project my yucky mood on anyone else.. especially if it’s not their fault I’m in that type of mood to begin with ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”

Taking your anger or frustration out on anyone isn’t ok…

When I am in the crossfire of someone else’s bad mood, it always reminds me that ANGER is one letter away from DANGER and the only thing that projecting your anger onto someone else does is push the other person away ๐Ÿ™„

Anger leads us to saying things that we don’t really feel or don’t really mean to say, and it brings up trust issues too, especially if something is said that you really don’t mean but say in the heat of the moment!

And although actions do speak louder than words, our actions when we are angry usually match the words that we say…

NOT GOOD…๐Ÿ˜ฑ

So whenever you are angry, remember who or what you’re angry at, think before you say a word… cause some words you can’t take back!!!

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

The Meaning Of FINE

It’s Totally True Too


Hello World & Happy Day My Friends ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’—

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned through the years is to always honor your feelings.. no matter what they are… You’re feelings are always valid!! They are your feelings and no one has the right to dispute them! ๐Ÿ™„

Today a friend gave me a beautiful compliment saying that she loves when someone asks me if I’m ok I say “No.. But I will be!” when I’m not and I don’t ever say “I’m fine!” cause there’s always something underlying with the word FINE..(I’ll tell you my definition of FINE in a sec haha๐Ÿค”… 

I’ve always been one on the up and up with however I’m feeling and ever since my son passed away, I’ve been even more of an advocate for everyone male and female to show their feelings and never ever hide them…. ๐Ÿค—…

Have you ever noticed that if you’re not doing ok or when someone says that they are FINE that there is usually something going on… For me FINE totally means 

F=Fuc*** Up, I=Insecure, N=Neurotic, E=Emotional… 

And while it may not mean all of those at the time… There is always something going on when you say I’m FINE otherwise we say… I’m ok..I’m great etc..๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”

Always be aware of how your feeling and never ever allow anyone to discredit how you feel cause they are your feelings and each and every one of them is valid… ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ™„

It truly is a gift to wear your feelings on your sleeve… 

Not everyone does it and everyone should… 

Cause bottling up how you feel is harmful to your health and to your well-being… 

Always know that it’s ok to show others how you feel… It shows that you are human.. It shows that you are REAL!!! ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿค—.

Have a fantabulous day my friends ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

It’s Your Journey

It’s YOUR Life


Hello World

Have you ever been so shocked by someone else’s behavior that it truly made you feel like you weren’t sure if it was you or if it was them????? ๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”.

Well that’s exactly what I’ve been going through for the past week.. So much so that I had to take a break from social media to get my head back on straight and take a good look at the situation and process it fully… ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”…

I’ve always been a people person as well as being very spontaneous yet had always worried about what others thought about what I was doing and about myself in general ๐Ÿ™„ ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜ฉ..

It took me a loooonnnnggg time to not worry about what others thought about me, especially when it came to my doing what I needed to do for me and my peace of mind yet as we all look for a little validation, it totally threw me for a huge loop when someone I know (or should I say I thought I knew) stopped talking to me because I haven’t begun my journey in the bus yet! ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜’… 

Yes I went there… 

Not being sure if it was them or me because I don’t like disappointing people in general ๐Ÿ˜–

I have never been one that’s afraid of change and I don’t have any problem with being spontaneous .. Yet this is HUGE and being that I am embarking on this journey alone (something else I’ve never ever done) “I” need to know that all my ducks are in a row with the bus and with myself especially emotionally ๐Ÿ˜

The journey in the bus is a huge huge huge life change for me and for the first time in my life I actually want to do it right in every manner.. 

Although it is taking me longer than even I anticipated.. I’m taking my time.. So that when I drive away I’ll know that everything with the bus is mechanically sound and that I am truly emotionally ready to begin my journey to heal from the loss of my son and begin MY new life ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’—

What others may feel isn’t really relevant because this is my journey and however long it takes me to begin is OK.. 

It’s my journey to take when and only when…. 

I AM READY!!! ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•