Saying No Is Hard

Yet Necessary For Your Own Well-being

Hello World and Happy Day My Friends ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

This morning I was talking to my neighbor who like me babysits everyday but she babysits for her 2yr old grandson..(the little boy I babysit is 8) yesterday she actually had a day off from watching him and said she felt so guilty for telling her son that she needed a break๐Ÿ˜ซ

We got to talking about how she has the hardest time saying no to her son and that she’s starting to resent that she offered in the first place cause she feels like she’s putting her life on hold for him, when what she really wants to do is travel in her RV ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”

She’s retired and last year bought her little trailer so she could do exactly what I’m about to do and now feels stuck because of her son and grandson ๐Ÿ˜ซ

We talked for a while and when she asked for my advice all I could say was be honest with your son and tell him how you really feel..

I told her that as hard as that may be it’s so important to do because resentments suck and the last thing she wants to do is have a resentment towards her son and grandson..๐Ÿ˜ซ

My point in all of this is..

It’s difficult for all of us to say no to our kids yet it’s so important to do so. It teaches them that it’s ok to say no and that when it’s in the best interest for you and your well-being, it’s mandatory to do so..

As parents we will always be there for our kids yet we need to be there for ourselves too especially once our kids are grown with families of their own and we cannot enable them or allow them to think that just because we’re mom or dad we’ll do whatever they want or need.

Don’t put your life on hold for something you really don’t want to do… It’s really ok to say no especially if saying no is what’s best for you!!!๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿค—

Ricci ๐Ÿ’•

Author: Hello World Goodnight Universe

Hello World, My name is Ricci pronounced like Ricky, yet it's been mispronounced all my life and at my age I answer to just about anything ๐Ÿ˜Š I am a writer, a writer of motivational light. A writer about everyday life. My story is one of hope, inspiration & motivation... One that begins over a half a century ago, when life was much different than it is today. We all have our own story, for each of us is unique. Some have had it easy, some have had it hard. Yet I believe that each one of our stories can bring a bit of light to others and I hope mine will bring light to some of you. My goal is to tell my story with hope that others can see that no matter what happens throughout your life... You CAN prevail, even when it feels like you can't. For I know it's possible for I have and am prevailing each and every day. You are NOT alone... Everything is possible when you believe. Everything is possible when you believe in YOU โคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโคโค https://www.gofundme.com/riccis-healing-journey

2 thoughts on “Saying No Is Hard”

  1. Your neighbour, planning the talk with her son: “Son, it’s been wonderful having all this time with Greyson (or whatever the grandson’s name may be), but he needs someone with a lot more energy than I have. Besides, I’m leaving on my trip on June 2, and I’ll need at least a week to get ready and won’t be able to take care of him after May 25. That gives you a month to find a new caregiver. I’ll miss Greyson and you, but it’s time for me to let you be on your own. I know, I’ve been hanging on so tight it’s been hard for you to pry yourself loose, and thank you so much for being patient with me, but you’re a grown man and I have to accept that and stop trying to take care of you. I’ve got to trust you to be an adult — after all, you are a full grown man and you’re intelligent and capable — I have to stop thinking of you as a little boy who needs Mama to take care of him. I love you and know you’ll find someone really good to take care of Greyson.”

    What she really needs to say, “Greyson will need a new sitter after May 25. Have a great summer!” Repeat only once, on May 23.

    …. and then cut off all contact on May 24 at bedtime. And lie in bed and chuckle, remembering all the times Son has done things like this to her.

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